lovelessemotion wrote:

ok here's another one..what if both partners work full time jobs..what then??? who get who what?

hmm... i say, two options, split the responsibilities and pampering according to how much each make, OR share it equally regardless bc u love each other enough to do it (thats the ideal... but we all know thats pretty rare!) If nothing works, ask Dr. Phil!

lovelessemotion wrote:

ok here's another one..what if both partners work full time jobs..what then??? who get who what?

As long as the man is the breadwinner, the woman can't tell him that he has to do things himself. Providing that the man is the breadwinner, the woman has what she has mostly because of him. Now if the woman was the breadwinner, well then, it's a different story.

So I've also heard that Japanese people like "dark skin" people. But I'm a little confused. By "dark-skinned person", are they referring to black people? Or does this include Indians, and various other kinds of dark people?

Somehow I doubt many Japanese could tell the difference between Indians and Blacks just from looking at them......

a minority likes drak skinned ppl in japan...i think its not very comman...most still like other asians and love fair skin foreigners most......

i dunno where ya heard this but its just a minority....

It's becoming more acceptable in Japan for Japanese to date Kokujin.
Although it's not as acceptable as it is in the states yet, Japanese are opening up to the idea. Older folk are still having a hard time coping with the issue. But, you do nowadays see more and more Japanese going with hakujin and kokujin.
Japanese are also beginning to express influences from kokujin. Japanese rap, baggy clothes, bandanas, one side of their pants rolled up, interest in American rap (Eminem, Tupac, etc.), braids, dreadlocks, list goes on..... So, I guess it's safe to conclude that Japanese do like kokujin. (In Hawaii, it's very common to see a Japanese with a kokujin)

its common but its still not the "norm" in mainland japan

lovelessemotion wrote:

its common but its still not the "norm" in mainland japan

Like you said.
But as more and more Japanese keep on going to different countries for school, work, whatever, they will be introduced to the fact that inter racial relationships do exist. Then they will become so comfortable with the fact and "forget" what they've been taught or told about it from Japanese society. As these kids keep on bringing home Kokujin, Hakujin, Kankokujin, Chugokujin, (whatever) "significant other halves", Japanese society is becoming "numb" to the idea already.
As for being the "norm", just give it time. Not too long from now, I bet it won't even be an issue anymore. (Except for those racist families up there. Like how we still got those freakin' KKK beleivers in America. -assholes!)

Aho is right, the same can be applied to the states as well. About 3 yrs ago we were driving thru Ohio (the most JPNese place in america, right?) and we stopped off in a burger king/fast food place and there were these 2 kids maybe about 6 to 7'ish just staring at us when we sat down. As we were finishing up, i noticeed that they were still watching us when I walked up to their parents and asked if there was anything wrong. Their reply was "Pardon me, it's that they've never saw y'all oriental-kinds in real life before."

I know they mean well, but damn this is 2000.
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niko2x wrote:

Ohio (the most JPNese place in america, right?)

ur beign sarcastic right? i didn't catch that till the end..

niko2x wrote:

Their reply was "Pardon me, it's that they've never saw y'all oriental-kinds in real life before." I know they mean well, but damn this is 2000.

lol what were ya doing in ohio? that's white-bread state = get it?

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lovelessemotion wrote:

ur beign sarcastic right? i didn't catch that till the end..

Yeah, you know: OHIO-gozaimasu! (drumroll)

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lol what were ya doing in ohio? that's white-bread state = get it?

My honey wanted to visit afriend that she grew up with. She left okinawa too and now lives in Michigan. Come to think about it, talking about this is making me wonder: Why didn't I put my foot up his @$$ at that time?
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EHEM what happened to the japanese pick up lines???
trust me folks i need them

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EHEM what happened to the japanese pick up lines??? Trust me folks i need them

Can't you pick up pointers from that letter you were gonna write to your dad? Actually, pick up lines are great for comedic value, but never works in real life, in JPN or in any other language.
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here's the little piece of info you're missing about my dad.... he's not japanese
I love me some comedy though!!

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here's the little piece of info you're missing about my dad.... he's not japanese I love me some comedy though!!

���ł�˂�?�I�@I thought you were going to write a letter to your pops in Japanese?

I'd say maybe in more urban Japan and major port cities, people are changing to the ideas of non-Japanese are ok. But for the majority of Japan? I'd say no way. Some people consider black people 'cool.' But you wouldn't wanna bring one home to your folks, you know? Even white folks aren't really all that accepted. The younger generation is definitely changing, but I have the say there's nothing close to 'universal' or even partial acceptance of a relationship with non-Japanese. There is only sometimes grudging tolerance, like if a Japanese girl likes a foreigner, the parents will kinda accept the guy in hopes that 'she sees the light' and breaks up with him.

As for foreign women and Japanese men? It's even more unlikely, as the boys usually carry on the family line. Many families don't want to see their Japanese family blood 'diluted.' The foreigner women situation in Japan is kinda sad, I always hear complaints about it.

As for all this talk about gender roles, well, it's interesting...notice how not many female posters have posted? hehe

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As for all this talk about gender roles, well, it's interesting...notice how not many female posters have posted? hehe

Actually, julie showed up at the beginning, but as far as femme's goes, I think that was it. You think maybe they're the one recieving the pick up lines, not giving it.
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We loved the black guys in Tokyo. First off, they were mostly FOBs from Africa, but they'd were Yanks caps and tell girls they were from Harlem. Meanwhile, they had thick accents. But we loved them because most of the girls who like black guys were ugly or not going to get a guy anyway, and those guys really didn't know the difference between cute and horrendous.

But when a CUTE girl was into black guys, now that's just puzzling...

As for the Japanese fascination with "black" culture, that's just said. I see guys walking around with 4 foot fros coming from their head with a Yanks placed gingerly on top; someone needs to stop these guys in the street and exclaim "you will never ever ever be black, ESPECIALLY below the belt. Deal with it!"

First post... good? too honest?

ahochaude wrote:

It's becoming more acceptable in Japan for Japanese to date Kokujin. Although it's not as acceptable as it is in the states yet, Japanese are opening up to the idea. Older folk are still having a hard time coping with the issue. But, you do nowadays see more and more Japanese going with hakujin and kokujin. Japanese are also beginning to express influences from kokujin. Japanese rap, baggy clothes, bandanas, one side of their pants rolled up, interest in American rap (Eminem, Tupac, etc.), braids, dreadlocks, list goes on..... So, I guess it's safe to conclude that Japanese do like kokujin. (In Hawaii, it's very common to see a Japanese with a kokujin)

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Try this in Ikebukuro, "Oishii manko doko desu ka?"

Yell this at the base of Sunshine City; you'll score within 20 minutes~!

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EHEM what happened to the japanese pick up lines??? trust me folks i need them

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ahochaude wrote:

���ł�˂�?�I�@I thought you were going to write a letter to your pops in Japanese?

i guess i was a little unclear on this one what i was doing was ENDING the letter in japanese always good to confuse the pops
YO metsuda!!! what does "Oishii manko doko desu ka?" mean!?! i said it to a female japanese friend of mine and she beat me with her purse for about a half an hour!!!! (jk jk i'm not that stupid... kinda)seriously tho what does it mean? nice first post btw

heh so apparently manko means "vagina" or "screw"
so you're either asking for an oishii vagina
or an oishii screw......

.....either way, it sounds pretty offensive....lol.....I'll pretend to act like a dumb foreignor, show some girl a piece of paper that has the question written on it.........and pretend to not know what it means............ok maybe not........

....but some of the shirts with really explicit language on them(that girls wear and have no idea what it means) are pretty funny..........