Younger age = Less old to watch ur boys n gals grow up.. More time to enjoy maturity ne

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u a lucky man u found the love of your life, some of us unlucky folk are still looking.

Thx ren, i am really lucky. Although at the time, I didn't feel lucky. EVERYONE was saying that you guys are too young, you all wo'nt last, etc. But I think that I was just starstrucked by the fact that she was so not so stuck up. I thought that all models were stuck up. I mean, she wasn't a full time model, just something on the side. Anyways I don't think I could hear anything from anyone b/c my mind was just so focus on her, even now!! Some things never change.
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Ne ne Want to hear M nechan story bout Marriage...

arashinokoto wrote:

hmmz.. i'm not sure if i want to get married.. i guess this thinking will change after i meet the right person but who knows? becoz there's lots of things i want to do on my own first..

Thats exactly what i feel too...

I don't really have much confidence in marriage, especially in today's society... of course this may change in the future... but this is the way i think now most probably because i haven't found someone i can devote and heart and life to yet.

Marriage is quite a blurry thing to me... i mean... i find it quite difficult to believe that i can be in love with someone for life after seeing most married couples in today's society. The reason why couples stay together sorta gets mixed up too much between responsibility and/or their feelings. I mean... surely alot of couples nowadays are together not because they really love each other... but because of children, or responsiblity, or, in a more eastern society, traditional values, family pressure, and stuff like that. In the end they are bound and tied to each other, not by their love which has died down over the years, but due to circumstances. That makes me wonder whether marriage is really such a good idea... Cos now it seems to me that its more of a society thing than a "love" thing between 2 ppl. And besides i do like having my own freedom, not to mention financial freedom in the future from being single. Of course... all this could change if i grow old to 30-40+, but now this is the way i think...

LOL I enjoy readin all of your points of views.

I used to tell my mom, I wanna get married now so please find me a husband if she likes.

Haha... I know I'm joking even until now (in reality) I have no real plans to get married whatsoever. Because in real life, you want to accomplish many many things by yourself. You think for what's safest and what's best for u according to your preferances, not according to dreams and fantasies.

In my another world, I like to stage a different life that appeals to me and this is where my marriage with G-kun comes in.

First off, I was married when I was 15. I know it's a tad too early but after all, it's just an imagination all right. We actually had two weddings, but I'm only gonna say about the first one. The first one, is a two-part thing: one is a personal ceremony and the other is the official grand celebration.

The personal ceremony is gothic-styled, complete with 16thC carriages and costumes. The official one demands millions of manpower (well, imagination!) I just can't describe.



Well, speaking in the real world, I do have some muddled direction somewhere. I've given it a little thought; I know I want only one or at the most two kids. I prefer a girl so I can play with her hair!! Hehe... I wanna get married before 25 (but that depends, anyway, we can't always be sure)

Right now, like most of you out there, I'm solely thinking about what I'd like to do with my future. As in, accomplishments and ambition. I'm 17; I've come to a fork road in life where serious choices needed to be made.

But Dreams still live on.

Good luck to all of you in [whatever]

- At what age do you wanna get married?

Perhaps 22 or 23. That's 4 years from now and i still don't have a boyfriend yet!!!!!

- Any plans for the ceremony? (the venue, atmosphere, costume, etc)

Either Ritz Carlton Hotel Poolside Buffet Barbeque or the Grand Ballroom for Buffet Bbq with Chefs at service.My gosh...my list can go on and on abt this.

- Where would u go for your honeymoon? =]

All round trip to Europe (France, Swtizerland, Italy & Turkey), Disney World in Florida and stay at the Vistana Resorts and Hawaii.

- At what age do you wanna have a baby?

I want to spend the first 2 years of my marriage to myself and my hubby. So perhaps, i'll only want to start conceiving at 26 or 27.

- How many children do you wanna have?

. 2 boys & 1 girl! (Urm...i actually don't care! The more the merrier!)

I've no idea when I will get married. I like to accomplish something first ,i.e work, do something that I want, and enjoy my single life.

I've never set any age target. I'm always ready to fall in love at any time, any place, any where. Love is such a wonderful thing, it's also painful at the same time. I believe you guys know what I mean when you've been there. When I do meet that special someone I want to be in love with him for the rest of my life.

Yep living together happily forever

Searching for a Way Out, Chinese Brides Look Across Taiwan Strait

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By Edward Cody Washington Post Foreign Service Thursday, October 14, 2004; Page A26 TAIPEI, Taiwan -- The way Huang Xiahong had it figured, she said, life in prosperous Taiwan was bound to be better than her prospects in the teeming Chinese city of Guangzhou. So three years ago, she hooked up with a Taiwanese bachelor with the help of a friend, got married on the mainland and traveled with her groom across the Taiwan Strait to start a new life. Huang is now the mother of a 4-month-old boy and, on the strength of her marriage certificate, a legal resident of Taiwan. Huang, 28, has joined a fast-growing flow of Chinese women who hope for an easier life and marry Taiwanese men -- sometimes for real, sometimes in sham unions. They legally move from the mainland to a place that, viewed from China's towns and villages, often looks like a 13,800-square-mile Shangri-La. The Taiwan Interior Ministry, after a recent survey, estimated that 200,000 Chinese women have married Taiwanese men since cross-strait unions became possible under Taiwanese rules in 1992. Such marriages started out slowly because of restrictions. But with the rules recently relaxed, the number has shot up, the ministry said, reaching almost 40,000 last year and more than 3,000 a month so far this year. The marriages, many based more on economics than love, have become a poignant illustration of the enduring lure of emigration in China. Although China's economy has boomed in recent years, the mainland has remained a difficult place for many of its 1.3 billion inhabitants, many of whom still seek to leave for the United States, Australia or Europe every year. Since many of Taiwan's 23 million people have mainland roots, some separated from their Chinese origins by only 50 years, adventurous Chinese women find Taiwan an attractive place to go. Taiwan has a per capita income more than 10 times China's $1,000, but the island still shares many linguistic, cultural and ethnic traits with China. More than half the marriages resulted from introductions by family and friends, the survey showed. Another third or more grew from acquaintanceships struck up by Taiwanese men who traveled to the mainland for business or to visit relatives. But about 10 percent were arranged by marriage bureaus whose representatives scout poor Chinese towns in search of prospective brides. For a broker's fee, usually amounting to about $1,200, Chinese women are introduced to Taiwanese men looking for wives. In an effort to rein in abuses, the Taiwanese government last month banned television advertising by marriage brokers who specialize in mainland brides. Their advertisements featured videos of young Chinese women parading in front of a camera as if at a horse show while an announcer described their charms against a background of alluring music. "It was demeaning," said Joseph Wu, who heads the Taiwan government's Mainland Affairs Council. The government has loosened restrictions on mainland marriages in the name of freedom for Taiwanese citizens. But Nancy Chen, a sociology professor at National Chengchi University, said officials have expressed fear that too many Chinese wives could, over the years, affect the balance between Taiwanese who favor independence and those who favor reunion with the mainland. Chen, who has researched the mainland brides issue, said some officials also feared that the arrival of such brides, many of them poor and uneducated, would raise the number of people competing for subsidized health care, education and jobs. "This is a small place," she said. "We can't allow everybody to come in or we will sink." Some of the mainland brides, such as Huang, have ended up as mothers and housewives, participants in durable marriages. But others have disappeared into factories or brothels after only a short time with their legal husbands, who are often poor matches for the women. "A lot of the brides are brides in name only," Chen said. She cited government figures showing that about half left their marriages quickly and melted into the underground labor population. "They can't be tracked down," Chen said. "Nobody knows where they are." Chen Shaoying, 26, came to Taiwan from Guangdong province with a new Taiwanese husband four years ago. Since then, she said, she has separated from her husband, struck out on her own and gone to work as an agent for apartment-seekers in Taipei, Taiwan's capital. "I'm the one who didn't want him," she said, smiling. Asked whether she planned to find another husband, she added: "Well, it's Taiwan. There are not many good men. They are all womanizers and they drink too much. It's just like the mainland." Chen, Huang and several hundred other mainland Chinese brides gathered Saturday at a park in Taipei to discuss their problems and hear a succession of five Taiwanese legislative candidates promise to look after them. Their top priority is the right to work, the women said, because current rules ban them from most jobs and they can get citizenship only after eight years of residency. But besides the desire to find work and acquire the independence that salaries would bring, the Chinese brides seemed to share a sense of disappointment. For many, the promised land they envisaged when getting married seems to have turned out to be a place like any other. "I miss my family," said Wu Quanyi, 38, a Wuhan native who has been here for 12 years. "Every day, I miss my family." A friend of Huang's who wanted to be identified only as Miss Xie said that although she had remained in her marriage, she had not found the golden life she had dreamed of before leaving China. "It's not as good as I thought it would be," she said. Chen, the research sociologist, said the mainland women sometimes have good reasons for the letdown. Mainland women, she said, often marry elderly Taiwanese who turn to China because they cannot find a wife at home. Typically, she explained, the grooms are poor farmers or workers who have little to offer younger Chinese women looking for riches. In some cases, she added, parents of handicapped Taiwanese have arranged marriages for their sons with Chinese women so the Taiwanese will have caretakers after the parents die.

sorry for the copy/paste. i wanted to get this article in before the post archived it. (Usually, i don't like this kind of spam either, but i think this is an interesting read.)
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marriage isnt that important to me,
its kinda dumb, i honestly see no point to it....honestly someone should tell me, im not trying to be smart or silly........

M wrote:

I know most of you prolly haven't thought that far yet, but I just wanna know... - At what age do you wanna get married? - Any plans for the ceremony? (the venue, atmosphere, costume, etc) - Where would u go for your honeymoon? =] - At what age do you wanna have a baby? - How many children do you wanna have? I think marriage is sacred, so it'll be interesting to hear some of your ideas!

Before I'm 30? I wanna graduate and travel around the world with my soon to be wife first.
For the ceremony..as long as my close friends and family are there..well great music and food as well!
Honeymoon in a serene Japan city? dunnoe
About a baby, I dunnoe..whenever she wants it.
I want 4 kids..2 boys, 2girls..cuz that's my family is like that..I'm the oldest.

pcmodem wrote:

Since most you are so obviously young, you should know this: LIFE DOESN'T ARRIVE ON TIME

HELL YEAH!

It's either too early or too late.
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I agree because something unexpected happened to my friends..a great thing but it's not a good time in their lives.

Gosh... haven't even crossed my mind yet...

Not anytime soon I hope...
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Marriage? I don't plan on it. My parents have had a rocky relationship, all my cousins are divorced or dang near close to, 90% of my friend's parents are divorced...when you see all these relationships that were supposed to be "forever" only to see it crash and burn like the Hindenberg, it makes you dissolutioned with the whole concept. Well I'm only 20, who knows, maybe my views will change. However its going to take a REALLY great guy to make me want to tie the know. As for kids....lets work on the husband thing first.

Slackey wrote:

Marriage? I don't plan on it. My parents have had a rocky relationship, all my cousins are divorced or dang near close to, 90% of my friend's parents are divorced...when you see all these relationships that were supposed to be "forever" only to see it crash and burn like the Hindenberg, it makes you dissolutioned with the whole concept. Well I'm only 20, who knows, maybe my views will change. However its going to take a REALLY great guy to make me want to tie the know. As for kids....lets work on the husband thing first.

I feel the same way. In short, I have issues with men and trusting them. I tend to think any relationship is NOT eternal. So I tend not to bother at all anymore. I really don't see myself married in the future....and as you said, it would have to take a really great guy to change my views. Yep, I have issues

Yep. Divorce rate is super high nowadays.

I myself don't plan on getting divorced, but then there is always amrayu and Rina................
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Marriage?? Don't do it...!

- At what age do you wanna get married? Got married at 31
- Any plans for the ceremony? (the venue, atmosphere, costume, etc) We had a Traditional Western wedding at Lake Tahoe, NV
- Where would u go for your honeymoon? =] Japan, Oskaka, Kyoto, Nara, Kobe, Asukusa, and Tokyo. Ourt first anniversary we went to Hawaii.
- At what age do you wanna have a baby? maybe 1 or 2 more years.
- How many children do you wanna have? 2

Getting married was one of the best decisions I made. I am glad I waited until I reached 30 though. I would not have been ready in my 20's.
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